When you first start out in your new and sober life, success may seem like a long way off on a bumpy road filled with potholes and booby traps just waiting for you to slip up. Success is a very broad term when it comes to addiction recovery due to the fact that addicts are all very different people with very different sets of issues that need addressing and not all issues or problems or addictions come in any one box or style. This is why developing your own steps to success is incredibly important. Sure, a framework helps, such as a twelve step program or the like, but having your own steps to success within a framework will help you achieve your success more readily and help you enjoy a successful recovery.
So what does your individual success look like? To some people it can be as simple as achieving one month sober from their chosen drug or vice. That is a huge step and can help you see that you can achieve a sober life – after all, one month is a seriously long period of time to abstain from anything, so it’s a great step forward. It’s important to acknowledge and celebrate these small victories (no matter how small they may seem to you!) to keep momentum towards your eventual complete recovery. It’s true, that many addicts consider themselves to be in recovery for many years, sometimes for the rest of their lives, so by complete recovery we mean the living of a life free of any addictive behaviour.
So what are some ways you can develop skills to succeed? Reading self-help books and attending your therapy appointments, counselling sessions and reading literature specific to overcoming addictions is a key role to finding skills and steps that work for you. Ask around, ask other recovering addicts who have been sober for longer what worked for them and what didn’t. Keep an open mind and know that knowledge is your greatest weapon when it comes to dealing with addictive behaviours. The more you go into the world armed with knowledge and education about how to overcome addictions, the more likely you are to succeed in your new found sober life. So be sure to take advice, listen to others, and most of all, listen to yourself. Only you know what works for you and what doesn’t. As we have said before – there is no one right way to sobriety, so it’s important that your path works for you.